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Hello everyone I just wondered what everyone had?

I think it's very mixed ! 

I had an elective C-section , I was PETRIFIED! but the delivery went well, it was just the after effects that got me, I ended up with a catheter for a week which was horrendous 😞

Would love to hear your experiences !

Issy xx

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32 minutes ago, Issy said:

Hello everyone I just wondered what everyone had?

I think it's very mixed ! 

I had an elective C-section , I was PETRIFIED! but the delivery went well, it was just the after effects that got me, I ended up with a catheter for a week which was horrendous 😞

Would love to hear your experiences !

Issy xx

Hi Issy I had a c section too - I was really worried about natural birth with twins as I thought I could go through all of the hard work with one and then have to have a c section for the other one if something went wrong anyway so decided not to risk it in the end!!

It all went ok but agree Issy that after it wasn't that great. Also I now have a bit of an overhang over my scar which I'm not a fan of but hoping it will go over time with a bit of exercise!!! 

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1 hour ago, Issy said:

Hello everyone I just wondered what everyone had?

I think it's very mixed ! 

I had an elective C-section , I was PETRIFIED! but the delivery went well, it was just the after effects that got me, I ended up with a catheter for a week which was horrendous 😞

Would love to hear your experiences !

Issy xx

I had an emergency C section and it was the scariest day of my life. My waters broke at 2am and the girls were born by 5am! I had Vasa Previa which meant I wasn’t allowed to have a natural birth and any sign of bleeding or labour the girls would have to come out straight away. I remember I reacted badly to the drugs in the c section which meant I was constantly throwing up whilst they were operating 😂 The worst part was I had to go on a magnesium drip before the operation and it literally feels like someone has set your insides on fire. The girls went straight up to the nicu so I barely saw them. I feel like it was quite a traumatic experience but I am so grateful they managed to save my babies 💕

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1 minute ago, tashalilyandsasha said:

I had an emergency C section and it was the scariest day of my life. My waters broke at 2am and the girls were born by 5am! I had Vasa Previa which meant I wasn’t allowed to have a natural birth and any sign of bleeding or labour the girls would have to come out straight away. I remember I reacted badly to the drugs in the c section which meant I was constantly throwing up whilst they were operating 😂 The worst part was I had to go on a magnesium drip before the operation and it literally feels like someone has set your insides on fire. The girls went straight up to the nicu so I barely saw them. I feel like it was quite a traumatic experience but I am so grateful they managed to save my babies 💕

Oh poor you 😞 that's very traumatic for you. 

I really think there is a huge lack of support when it comes to dealing with the trauma of birth , it's one of those major life moments and sometimes it goes wrong but there is no advice on how to deal with the mental trauma of it 😣

That magnesium sounds awful- what was that for ? Xx

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3 minutes ago, Issy said:

Oh poor you 😞 that's very traumatic for you. 

I really think there is a huge lack of support when it comes to dealing with the trauma of birth , it's one of those major life moments and sometimes it goes wrong but there is no advice on how to deal with the mental trauma of it 😣

That magnesium sounds awful- what was that for ? Xx

Hi Issy, to be honest I think any type of birth can really scar you. The magnesium is to prevent brain injury during birth to pre term babies xx

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1 minute ago, tashalilyandsasha said:

Hi Issy, to be honest I think any type of birth can really scar you. The magnesium is to prevent brain injury during birth to pre term babies xx

Well I learnt something new! 

Yes I agree xx 

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2 hours ago, tashalilyandsasha said:

Hi Issy, to be honest I think any type of birth can really scar you. The magnesium is to prevent brain injury during birth to pre term babies xx

my wife doesnt like to talk about it too much. it worries me a little to be honest. she had a traumatic time .

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7 minutes ago, PaulTwinDad said:

my wife doesnt like to talk about it too much. it worries me a little to be honest. she had a traumatic time .

Hi Paul, as long as she’s knows you’re always there to listen to her you’re doing good by her. My partner is the same but I have found as time has gone on they have been more open to talk about it. Time can be a good healer. Also at my hospital they had specialist counselling for parents who had traumatic birth experience.

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11 minutes ago, tashalilyandsasha said:

Hi Paul, as long as she’s knows you’re always there to listen to her you’re doing good by her. My partner is the same but I have found as time has gone on they have been more open to talk about it. Time can be a good healer. Also at my hospital they had specialist counselling for parents who had traumatic birth experience.

Beautifully put @tashalilyandsasha

And I agree @PaulTwinDad as long as she knows when she is ready to talk about it you are there to listen to her ❤️

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I had an emergency c section at 35 +5  due to pre eclampsia, gestational diabetes and poorly functioning liver. Alice was breech and William was transverse. Alice came out fine but William was taken to nicu and put on c pap for 48 hours. Unfortunately a few hours after delivery I developed Hellp Syndrome and was put on magnesium for 24 hours. It was awful not the start i imagined, but 2 weeks later we were home and 33 months on were here to tell the tale x

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13 minutes ago, Clair said:

I had an emergency c section at 35 +5  due to pre eclampsia, gestational diabetes and poorly functioning liver. Alice was breech and William was transverse. Alice came out fine but William was taken to nicu and put on c pap for 48 hours. Unfortunately a few hours after delivery I developed Hellp Syndrome and was put on magnesium for 24 hours. It was awful not the start i imagined, but 2 weeks later we were home and 33 months on were here to tell the tale x

Oh gosh Clair.. poor you 😞 that all sounds quite scary really!! I've never heard of Hellp Syndrome, what is that ? 

I think we always beat ourselves up, thinking how things should have been different but the main thing is those gorgeous babies were healthy and you all survived !! Not nice to go through though at the time ! 

Did you have help from family/partner/friends during this time ? xx

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I had an elective c section planned but went into labour 2 weeks early. I was rushed from my hospital to a different hospital by ambulance because there was no room in the nicu in my hospital and taken for an emergency c section. My labour definitely wasn’t the way we planned and being moved to a completely different hospital than I had been dealing with the whole way through my pregnancy was very stressful, as I didn’t know any of the doctors or midwives and honestly they where awful. I was shouted at for crying while in labour by a midwife, the doctors and midwives where rude and spoke to me a little as they possibly could, one midwife sat and was giving me a lecture about choosing a section and ‘not even nothing to try give birth naturally’ she was so judgemental (I cried again!). Thankfully my girls didn’t need the nicu. The girls where born at 10.53 and 10.54 my mother was not aloud into see us that night she had to wait until the next morning. My partner was sent home at 12.00 and wasn’t aloud back until 10 the next morning. I was taken up to the ward late that night and when the girls where due a feed the nurse left two bottles on the tray at the bottom of my bed and said ‘here feed them’. I had to struggle my way out of the bed get the bottles and somehow struggle my way up and lift one girl at a time and feed them, no help what so ever. I have a million other thawing I could tells you’d about but I’d be here all day. It definitely was not a good experience for me and I was never as happy the day I got out of that hospital...

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3 minutes ago, Nicole Moley said:

I had an elective c section planned but went into labour 2 weeks early. I was rushed from my hospital to a different hospital by ambulance because there was no room in the nicu in my hospital and taken for an emergency c section. My labour definitely wasn’t the way we planned and being moved to a completely different hospital than I had been dealing with the whole way through my pregnancy was very stressful, as I didn’t know any of the doctors or midwives and honestly they where awful. I was shouted at for crying while in labour by a midwife, the doctors and midwives where rude and spoke to me a little as they possibly could, one midwife sat and was giving me a lecture about choosing a section and ‘not even nothing to try give birth naturally’ she was so judgemental (I cried again!). Thankfully my girls didn’t need the nicu. The girls where born at 10.53 and 10.54 my mother was not aloud into see us that night she had to wait until the next morning. My partner was sent home at 12.00 and wasn’t aloud back until 10 the next morning. I was taken up to the ward late that night and when the girls where due a feed the nurse left two bottles on the tray at the bottom of my bed and said ‘here feed them’. I had to struggle my way out of the bed get the bottles and somehow struggle my way up and lift one girl at a time and feed them, no help what so ever. I have a million other thawing I could tells you’d about but I’d be here all day. It definitely was not a good experience for me and I was never as happy the day I got out of that hospital...

Good grief.. reading that made me so angry. How dare they speak to you as treat you like that 🤷🏼‍♀️🤯😠 and at your most vulnerable moment , I'm so sorry for you. You are a brave strong woman is all I can say ❤️

I bet you couldn't wait to get home 🙌

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Thank you Issy ❤️ We all just have such different experience don’t we. 

Maw I definitely wasn’t strong I was an emotional mess the first 3 days stuck in that hospital but once I got home with my babies everything was good and I just put all that to the back of my mind. I have my beautiful girls and that’s all that mattered at the end of it. 

Xx

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16 minutes ago, Nicole Moley said:

Thank you Issy ❤️ We all just have such different experience don’t we. 

Maw I definitely wasn’t strong I was an emotional mess the first 3 days stuck in that hospital but once I got home with my babies everything was good and I just put all that to the back of my mind. I have my beautiful girls and that’s all that mattered at the end of it. 

Xx

Absolutely ! You are a warrior xx

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1 hour ago, Nicole Moley said:

I had an elective c section planned but went into labour 2 weeks early. I was rushed from my hospital to a different hospital by ambulance because there was no room in the nicu in my hospital and taken for an emergency c section. My labour definitely wasn’t the way we planned and being moved to a completely different hospital than I had been dealing with the whole way through my pregnancy was very stressful, as I didn’t know any of the doctors or midwives and honestly they where awful. I was shouted at for crying while in labour by a midwife, the doctors and midwives where rude and spoke to me a little as they possibly could, one midwife sat and was giving me a lecture about choosing a section and ‘not even nothing to try give birth naturally’ she was so judgemental (I cried again!). Thankfully my girls didn’t need the nicu. The girls where born at 10.53 and 10.54 my mother was not aloud into see us that night she had to wait until the next morning. My partner was sent home at 12.00 and wasn’t aloud back until 10 the next morning. I was taken up to the ward late that night and when the girls where due a feed the nurse left two bottles on the tray at the bottom of my bed and said ‘here feed them’. I had to struggle my way out of the bed get the bottles and somehow struggle my way up and lift one girl at a time and feed them, no help what so ever. I have a million other thawing I could tells you’d about but I’d be here all day. It definitely was not a good experience for me and I was never as happy the day I got out of that hospital...

I can’t believe you were treated in this way! How disgusting to be treated like that in one of the most vulnerable moments in a woman’s life! I am so sorry you had to go through that 😔 💕

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37 minutes ago, tashalilyandsasha said:

I can’t believe you were treated in this way! How disgusting to be treated like that in one of the most vulnerable moments in a woman’s life! I am so sorry you had to go through that 😔 💕

It made me so angry!!

@tashalilyandsashadid you have the girls in Poole? xx

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2 hours ago, Issy said:

Oh gosh Clair.. poor you 😞 that all sounds quite scary really!! I've never heard of Hellp Syndrome, what is that ? 

I think we always beat ourselves up, thinking how things should have been different but the main thing is those gorgeous babies were healthy and you all survived !! Not nice to go through though at the time ! 

Did you have help from family/partner/friends during this time ? xx

Its when pre eclampsia isnt cured after delivery so the liver enzymes increase and blood platlets are low. It causes very high blood pressure and the magnesium prevents a stroke. I had never heard of it and had to google it. I had my husband who was amazing, he did the first nappy changes, first bottle feed. My milk never came in either 😞 xx

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1 minute ago, Clair said:

Its when pre eclampsia isnt cured after delivery so the liver enzymes increase and blood platlets are low. It causes very high blood pressure and the magnesium prevents a stroke. I had never heard of it and had to google it. I had my husband who was amazing, he did the first nappy changes, first bottle feed. My milk never came in either 😞 xx

Thank god for your wonderful husband ❤️ he must have been your rock ,good man! 

It also must have been scary for him too I imagine he was very worried about you 😣

My milk never came either.. don't beat yourself up! 😘 And those babies have done just fine ❤️Xxxx

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7 minutes ago, Clair said:

Its when pre eclampsia isnt cured after delivery so the liver enzymes increase and blood platlets are low. It causes very high blood pressure and the magnesium prevents a stroke. I had never heard of it and had to google it. I had my husband who was amazing, he did the first nappy changes, first bottle feed. My milk never came in either 😞 xx

Your husband sounds like an absolute gem! Sound like you guys have really been through it 😔 I hate when I hear about new mothers not being supported by doctors, nurses, midwives etc.

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1 minute ago, tashalilyandsasha said:

Yes had mine in Poole! The staff were amazing 🤗 How about you Issy?xx

Yes I had all mine in Poole! Overall I would say I had an okay experience. 

The staff bar 1 (who told me I would kill my children if I used a prep machine...) We're all fabulous! Very helpful. Kind.

I couldn't even imagine being somewhere terrible. I truly feel for @Nicole Moley bless her heart 💓 

The only gripe I have is that I think it's very very round down and could do with a good clean and freshen up .. it's so depressing xx

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5 minutes ago, Issy said:

Yes I had all mine in Poole! Overall I would say I had an okay experience. 

The staff bar 1 (who told me I would kill my children if I used a prep machine...) We're all fabulous! Very helpful. Kind.

I couldn't even imagine being somewhere terrible. I truly feel for @Nicole Moley bless her heart 💓 

The only gripe I have is that I think it's very very round down and could do with a good clean and freshen up .. it's so depressing xx

I agree it could do with being modernised. I can’t believe what some staff get away with saying though! 🙄 

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56 minutes ago, Clair said:

Its when pre eclampsia isnt cured after delivery so the liver enzymes increase and blood platlets are low. It causes very high blood pressure and the magnesium prevents a stroke. I had never heard of it and had to google it. I had my husband who was amazing, he did the first nappy changes, first bottle feed. My milk never came in either 😞 xx

@Clair I also had this after my emergency C-section when I was 34 weeks due to pre-eclampsia, was on the magnesium drip for 48 hours and my reflexes were going so mad that the doctor's kept in inviting more doctor's in the room to have a look as they'd never seen anything like it before!! 

So hard isn't it that you can't see them and you just feel so awful? I'm so sad I missed their first nappy changes but keep thinking it could have been worse for me so I'm grateful for it all now x

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